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5 Tips For Helping Teens Navigate Friendships And Social Skills

Written by Jenita Lawal | Jan 11, 2023 5:00:00 AM

Navigating the world of teen friendships and social skills can be tricky, but it doesn’t have to be. With the right guidance and support, teens can learn to foster healthy relationships and build strong social skills. In this blog post, we’ll be sharing five tips to help teens navigate the complexities of teen friendships and social skills. With these simple strategies, teens can learn to develop relationships and build social confidence.

1) Model healthy relationships
Adolescence is a time of many physical, emotional, and social changes, so teenagers often form friendships in order to find a sense of belonging. Friendships may play an important role in their lives as they experiment with independence, build their self-confidence, and discover their own identities. During early adolescence, they might even change their interests and activities to fit in with their friends. In their later teen years, they have more diverse peer groups and, not feeling like their opinions won’t be respected by those around them, feel like they can openly express their thoughts within their peer groups.

One of the best ways to help teens have healthy social relationships is to provide a model for them. Your relationships and those of the people closest to them have a huge influence on the beliefs and norms teens form about relationships.

Parenting shifts from making decisions for the younger child to helping older children and teens make decisions on their own. Studies show that parents continue to have more influence than peers on many important outcomes, including whether teens smoke, use alcohol or other drugs, or have sexual intercourse.

Take the time to talk to teens about healthy relationships and show them examples of good relationships. Encourage them to watch movies and television shows that demonstrate healthy teen friendships and have discussions about how to practice good communication and conflict-resolution skills.

2) Encourage positive self-talk
Positive self-talk is an important part of helping teens navigate relationships and friendships. Teenagers often struggle with feelings of low self-esteem, which can lead to negative thoughts. By teaching teenagers how to think more positively about themselves and their experiences, they can build healthier relationships with others and cultivate a positive self-image.

Encouraging positive self-talk in teens starts with setting a good example. Model positive thinking by talking to yourself and others kindly and with respect. Speak words of affirmation that build up your teen’s confidence and esteem. Also, be careful not to engage in negative self-talk or criticism around your teenager, as this could lead them to do the same.

When it comes to your teen, point out small accomplishments and successes and celebrate their achievements. If they make a mistake, encourage them to learn from it and move on rather than harping on the incident.

Encourage your teenager to keep a journal of positive statements, such as “I am capable” and “I am strong”. Remind them to check in with themselves before making decisions and to ask themselves if it’s something that will build their self-confidence.

By helping teenagers develop a positive attitude toward themselves, you can help them create and maintain healthy relationships with those around them. This can be an invaluable skill for teens as they begin to explore the world of teenage friendships and build social skills.

3) Promote empathy
Helping teenagers develop empathy is essential for strong relationships and healthy friendships. It’s important to show them what it looks like to be empathetic and understanding of others. Teaching your teenager to recognize their own emotions and those of others will help them to create meaningful connections with their peers.

Start by leading by example and showing them how to express compassion and understanding. Modeling positive behavior helps teens build healthy relationship skills. Show them how to be mindful of others, listen without judgment, and respond with kindness.

Encourage your teenager to practice active listening by asking open-ended questions about other people’s feelings and experiences. Let them know that it’s ok to disagree with someone, but also to validate their feelings and understand why they may feel a certain way.

Help your teenager explore their own emotions and motivations as well as those of others. Teach them the power of perspective-taking. Encouraging them to step away from the situation, put themselves in the shoes of another person, and look at it from a different point of view can help them to become more empathetic.

Creating a culture of empathy in your home will help your teenager understand the importance of being kind and understanding when interacting with their peers and in all relationships.

4) Teach assertiveness skills
Assertiveness is an important skill for teenagers to learn when it comes to their relationships and friendships. Assertiveness teaches teens to express their needs and desires, as well as their boundaries, in a direct and respectful way. Being assertive helps them navigate the complicated dynamics of teenage relationships while still respecting themselves and those around them. Here are five tips to help teens learn how to be more assertive:

  • Model assertive behavior: As adults, it’s important to practice what we preach. Modeling assertive behavior for our teens can help show them how to be direct, yet respectful when asking for what they want or need.
  • Praise assertive behavior: When you notice your teen being assertive in any situation, take the time to praise them for it. This will help encourage them to continue being assertive and remind them that it’s ok to speak up and express themselves.
  • Practice: Role-play with your teen to help them practice different scenarios and how to respond assertively. Brainstorming different situations and how they could respond can help them be prepared if they find themselves in a tricky situation.
  • Discuss body language: Body language can be just as important as verbal communication when it comes to assertiveness. Teach your teen how to make eye contact, stand up straight, and speak in a firm but respectful tone.
  • Respect: Remind your teen that being assertive does not mean being aggressive or disrespectful. Assertiveness involves setting boundaries, but also respecting others and their feelings.

5) Help them find their tribe
When it comes to helping teens navigate their friendships and social connections, one of the most important steps is helping them find their tribe. It can be difficult for teenagers to figure out where they fit in, especially if they have just moved to a new school or area. Encouraging them to find like-minded people who share their interests and values can give them a sense of belonging and security in their relationships.

Having supportive and understanding friends can also help teenagers as they learn how to negotiate relationships. As your teen gets older, they will start to build meaningful relationships outside of the family, and that is an essential part of growing up. Help them build their network of friends by finding activities and organizations that align with their values and interests.

Encourage your teen to take initiative and start conversations with others in their class or school. Being brave enough to start conversations and establish relationships with peers is a crucial skill that teenagers need to learn to succeed in life. If you notice that your teen is having difficulty finding friends, offer your support and guidance. Give them some helpful tips on how to start conversations with peers, such as by asking questions about mutual interests, or simply introducing themselves.

At the end of the day, your teen’s relationships will be most successful if they’re built on trust and respect. Encourage your teenager to be open and honest with their friends and remind them that strong relationships are based on good communication. As a parent, you play a crucial role in helping your teen develop healthy relationship skills, so don’t be afraid to step in and offer advice when necessary.